It’s easy to wonder if you’re going to get everything you want out of life. Perhaps you want the ideal income, the recognition you deserve, or else. But instead of focusing on what you want, you can experience far more happiness by cultivating the right philosophies.
We don’t choose our parents, or our brothers and sisters. But if you’re lucky enough to have a family, let that love flow into your life regularly. They’re not going to be here forever, so reconnect in some small way if it’s been awhile since you last spoke. Make it a routine to keep in touch.
Your family may not be perfect, but maintaining your connection with some of, or all of your family will give you the gift of a greater sense of belonging. If there’s anything you can do to heal the past, be patient — and do your best to move through it.
They’ll be thankful for it. And so will you.
Based on the longest study on happiness by a group of Harvard researchers, the major finding was that the quality of your relationships — determine the quality of your happiness.
And yet, it’s so easy to let your social life slide down into a small corner of your life. But by continually nurturing it, you’ll be taking care of one the most important parts of your happiness. According to positive psychology, that means you’re likelier to move in the right direction in all the other areas of your life too.
Strong relationships have been shown in numerous studies, to be the strongest predictors of life satisfaction. When you express yourself with a couple of different friends every week (something so simple), you give yourself the best chance of being happy. Life then doesn’t seem like it’s all about the pursuit, but more like an experience, you share in common with everyone else.
Some of us live under the idea that we need to be serious to achieve big things. Based on a whole library of research documented by Shawn Achor, author of The Happiness Advantage, people who laugh more are happier, and also counter-intuitively likelier to achieve more. As children, we used to laugh hundreds of times per day. As adults, that number gets whittled down significantly.
Humour is our primordial philosophy, but we only cultivate it through being mindful of the looking-glass we navigate our lives with. Dr Wayne Dyer once famously said, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”.
If you’re usually feeling tense and pressured because of the way you look at life, your character is going to eventually, permanently reflect that. But if you’re usually feeling amused, despite whatever’s going on, you’ll help shape your long-term character and life for more happiness.
Since your whole life will always be live within the confines of a single day, you do what you can to enjoy each one. While you may have goals, you realize that you only move closer towards them by fully embracing your present.
Thomas Carlyle once said, “Our main business not to see what lies at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.” In the myriad responsibilities of work and life, you realize it’s important to keep your sense of play.
Sometimes doing what you love is a struggle. Sometimes you feel like procrastinating. But you still do your best make the time for what you love each day. Your love could be anything from practicing an instrument, drawing, writing, painting, playing basketball, reading, or else.
Your daily morning routine is the foundation for your life. If you start off each day with an arbitrary script, then you’re going to get random results. And while it’s good to take chances in life, gambling on being intentional with your life isn’t a chance you take.
So, start your day by consistently doing whatever it is that makes you feel good; making it likelier you’ll make good things happen.
With a morning routine, you cultivate the mental, spiritual, physical, and emotional areas of your life. You head into your day already feeling fulfilled. Whether you read, exercise, journal, meditate, take a cold shower, or else — a sign that you’re moving in the right direction is that you know exactly what puts you in peak mental and physical state each day.
While life may partly be about the hustle, it’s also about having a holistic life that makes you feel energized to be the best person you can be. Going abroad allows you to come back home renewed, ready to fire on all cylinders. When you look back on your time on this planet, you’ll savour every opportunity you took to push yourself out into different realms.
Traveling is about much more than taking the time to have some fun and relax. It’s about going on adventures that disconnect you from your existing culture — so that you see yourself with a little more clarity.
It’s about enriching your life, with unique, memorable experiences.
Everyone you meet knows something you don’t. Every person you come across is a potential teacher or mentor. Since you know this truth, you’re more open to building new growth based relationships. But only some people can offer you advice and wisdom that’s truly life changing — so you look for people wiser than you in the right places.
Marcus Aurelius, the famous Roman Emperor, in his book, Meditations wrote: “the span we live is small — small as the corner of the earth in which we live it.” To make your view of the world clearer, and life larger, all you need to do is to: be open, ask the right questions, and continually test out new ideas. You need to reach out to potential teachers, as you look for the gems in what they share with you.
With time and application, the different components of your life will start clicking into place.
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